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1. Do you look forward to seeing him when you’ve been apart? |
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2. Do you find your partner entertaining and interesting? |
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3. Do you share similar interests, usually agreeing on how to spend time together? |
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4. Do you find more things to appreciate and respect in your partner as time goes on? |
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5. Do you have an enjoyable sex life, one that is satisfying physically and emotionally? Does it make you feel good to please him? |
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6. Are you physically, intellectually and emotionally attracted to him? |
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7. Does he make you feel better about yourself? Has your confidence or self-esteem improved during your relationship? |
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8. Does he pay attention when you speak and truly listen? |
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9. Is he considerate of your feelings and desires? |
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10. Do you trust him, rather than feeling the need to check up on him to make sure he’s not being dishonest or cheating on you? |
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11. Can he be counted on to make the right decisions about his finances or professional life? |
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12. Do you have compatible long-term goals on major issues, such career goals and where to live? |
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13. Is he supportive emotionally and spiritually? |
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14. Will you be able to count on him in a time of personal crisis (illness, bereavement, job loss, financial despair)? |
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15. If you were ill or dying, would you entrust him to make medical decisions on your behalf and care for your children? |
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16. Does he “give” comparably or more than he takes from the relationship? |
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17. Can he get over his anger, frustration or disappointment in a constructive way? |
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18. Is he polite, not just with you, but also with friends, family, colleagues and strangers? |
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19. Does he take care of himself and encourage you to do the same? Is he a positive and healthy influence? |
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20. Do you agree on whether or not to have children, and how many? |
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21. If you do desire kids, do you agree on major child rearing issues, such as education, faith, health care, and discipline? |
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22. Do you accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses, without trying to (dramatically) change each other? |
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23. Does he make your life easier, rather than creating more work or complicating matters for you? |
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24. Can you tolerate his personal commitments and burdens, including children from a past relationship, obligations to relatives? |
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25. Is he a good person, viewed by yourself and others as someone with strong moral convictions and high character? |
