Having Children Without Him
I am almost 39, and a successful career woman. I have gone through two Mr. Wrongs- one that I dated for almost 5 years during my late 20's and into my early 30's, the other one I met in my mid-30's, married a few years late, and now waiting to finalize the divorce. In total, I wasted almost 10 years between these two guys. I read your book, and loved it. Ditching spelled out my plight, and I wanted to share my story so other women realize that they have options, even if Mr. Right doesn't come by in time, provided having children of your own is a preference.
The first guy was combination The Underachiever, Mr. Reinvention and The Mooch. He moved into my home, sponged off me for years, and was far too old to be "searching for an identity". I finally got the nerve to dump him, and moved along with my life, focusing on my business and mental health.
In my next serious romance, I opted for someone a bit older and established, and much to my chagrin, he turned out to be Mr. Heavy Baggage. He was extremely successful and engaging, but he had a substance abuse problem. I didn’t really pay attention until after we were married, sold my home and moved in with him and co-mingled funds. I wasted another 4 quality years, and had come to the realization time is running out to have children. I couldn't wait to meet my Mr. Right, this is something that I needed to take control of and do on my own.
Subsequently, I visited a fertility doctor and had my eggs frozen, and will pursue in vitro fertilization (IVF) when the time is more appropriate- buying a little more time to find a suitable partner, or considering a sperm donor. I feel liberated, and a significant amount of pressure has subsided. I am now looking to have children of my own, and have no dependence on anyone. It may not be the ideal scenario, and not something that I would have planned on in my younger days. I am still hopeful of finding a compatible life long partner, but I won't be pressured and he will need to accept me and hopefully some beautiful children I will bring into the world.
Additional Information: I suggest doing some research, online (see a few helpful links below) and with a fertility specialist. You can start with IVF. Physicians will often implant more than one embryo for a higher chance of success so that is why there are so many twins and triplets with IVF. It is also better for women to freeze their eggs before 40 because the eggs are usually healthier and you can produce more with fertility drugs.
http://www.sharedjourney.com/ivf.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_vitro_fertilization
http://www.fertilitylifelines.com/seekingfertilitytreatment.jsp?cid=534&gclid=CO78yqu-1JcCFRykagodIC8pDA
